I will turn 32 in around 6 weeks time and I have recently come to realise that I have never been on a date with a girl. I have asked girls out in the past but I have been rejected. The last time I asked was almost 12 years ago. I took the rejection to heart and I decided I was better off not asking in future.
Recently, however, I have realised that most acquaintances (I have very few friends) on social media (mainly Facebook) are either in long-term relationships or married. It has made me worry that life is passing me by somewhat and that I should probably look into finding someone special.
I am an extreme introvert and I have experienced severe depression for a number of years due to trauma during my 20’s. In the last few years, however, I have worked hard to get my life back on track. I returned to university and graduated with first-class honours in modern history in September 2023. Since then I’ve been working part-time whilst spending most of my free time researching in my university library for a suitable subject for my master’s degree, which I hope to begin this September. As it will be a master’s by research, I am attempting to find a suitable avenue for investigation. Since I’m intending to focus on Portuguese colonialism in Africa, I’m also attempting to learn Portuguese. In other words, I’m keeping myself quite busy.
Recently, however, I have had creeping thoughts about relationships. I’m worried that due to my age and lack of experience, many potential partners may be put off. I’ve read articles concerning ‘red flags’ and the fact I’ve never dated anyone and have no friends may be construed as an issue for many. I have many interests and a few hobbies, but my lack of social skills could hold me back.
I’m therefore asking whether girls may be put off by this?
