Dating

Dating Matters – “I Am Almost 32 and Have Never Had a Girlfriend. Is This Bad?”

March 22, 2024

I will turn 32 in around 6 weeks time and I have recently come to realise that I have never been on a date with a girl. I have asked girls out in the past but I have been rejected. The last time I asked was almost 12 years ago. I took the rejection to heart and I decided I was better off not asking in future.

Recently, however, I have realised that most acquaintances (I have very few friends) on social media (mainly Facebook) are either in long-term relationships or married. It has made me worry that life is passing me by somewhat and that I should probably look into finding someone special.

I am an extreme introvert and I have experienced severe depression for a number of years due to trauma during my 20’s. In the last few years, however, I have worked hard to get my life back on track. I returned to university and graduated with first-class honours in modern history in September 2023. Since then I’ve been working part-time whilst spending most of my free time researching in my university library for a suitable subject for my master’s degree, which I hope to begin this September. As it will be a master’s by research, I am attempting to find a suitable avenue for investigation. Since I’m intending to focus on Portuguese colonialism in Africa, I’m also attempting to learn Portuguese. In other words, I’m keeping myself quite busy.

Recently, however, I have had creeping thoughts about relationships. I’m worried that due to my age and lack of experience, many potential partners may be put off. I’ve read articles concerning ‘red flags’ and the fact I’ve never dated anyone and have no friends may be construed as an issue for many. I have many interests and a few hobbies, but my lack of social skills could hold me back.

I’m therefore asking whether girls may be put off by this?

How Many Red Flags Can You Spot In This?

March 4, 2024

We’ve been together for 5 years. She’s gorgeous, loves me, I love her more than everything. Yesterday I found out that she is going out with a dude that tried to kiss her few months before we started dating.

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Dude is her “friend” that tried to kiss her before we started dating. No problem here. When she rejected him, he went back on dating others. Again, no problem.

Few weeks ago he broke up with his partner and immediately followed and DMed my girlfriend.

They chatted at nights, while she was in the bathroom, sometimes almost for hours. And every time she erased all of the chats with him.

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She said that it’s “friendly meet up” to her friends. She also asked them to lie to me, in case I am curious about where my girlfriend is.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. Any advice? Do I confront her right now? Do I confront while they are together? Why some men are such dicks? Why would they try to hit on an obviously taken girlfriend?

She’s 10/10 and I want to be with her till the rest of my life but I cannot emotionally afford to be in an unfaithful relationship. Help me please, it’s been eating me out from the inside.

How Many Red Flags Can You Spot In This Situation?

February 20, 2024

I started dating this guy that I met online three months ago, and we’ve been out on a few dates. The first date went really well. Then the problems started up a day after the first date. In fact he asked twice not to block him before the date could end. He then apologised for saying he liked me so many times during the date and calling me beautiful etc.

The day after the date he started getting more clingy than usual and said that he really needs my attention. He went as far as saying that he’s already obsessed and craves my attention, which I took as a joke because it was so soon, but he looked serious and said that he sees a lot of potential with us. I thought that was kinda quick but we have been chatting online for a while and got close on an emotional level so idk if that’s normal or not. I do like him but it’s a bit much sometimes especially since I haven’t dated in 4 years and forgotten what is was like to be in a relationship.

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How to Navigate the Dating World as a Short Guy

January 2, 2024

I’m short, I have been specifically told that I was too short to date multiple times. I’m fairly average in looks but I am short. The vast majority of girls won’t date a short guy unfortunately, all I’ve heard from girls is “tall dark and handsome” I’ve never met a girl who preferred to date short guys and only met a couple who didn’t mind. Being short is one of the most unattractive traits a guy can have and people will always remind you of that with jokes, insults, mocking and condescending comments. Dating as a short guy is almost impossible, I just give up.

Reading your message, I hear a ton of frustration, and honestly, it’s completely understandable. Being told you’re not enough because of your height is a painful experience, and the constant reminders from society don’t make it any easier. But hold on, because I want to challenge that negative narrative and offer some hope.

The Repellent Power of Desperation

December 11, 2023

We all have dealbreakers when it comes to dating, certain qualities that send us running for the hills. But one of the most universal turn-offs for women is a man reeking of desperation. It’s that subtle aura of someone who just wants “a girlfriend,” any girlfriend, without considering compatibility or genuine connection.

This desperation isn’t just unattractive, it’s a red flag. It whispers of insecurity, neediness, and an inability to be happy and fulfilled independently. A woman wants to feel chosen, cherished, desired specifically for who she is, not as a placeholder for anyone with a pulse.

This Site Helps You Choose The Best Photos For Your Dating, Social And Business Profiles

October 27, 2023

photofeeler

I don’t know about everyone else but I really didn’t understand how to take proper photos and it lead to me wasting a bunch of time swiping on tinder and doubting myself.

Photofeeler is sorta like Tinder but you just get the raw data on what people think about your pics. I found out real quick that some selfies that I thought were nice weren’t nice at all. I followed the advice on their blog and had my mom take some pics of me (your mom wants you to find someone too, bro. Don’t be afraid to ask her for help). Quickly got some data saying that the photos were nice and started using them. The difference has been huge!

In fact, my highest rated photo on photofeeler was this kinda messy photo that I definitely brushed off at first. But the data spoke for itself and as soon as I made it my main tinder photo BAM I went from a match every few months (and they mostly ghosted me) to several per week with good convo and actual dates.
I encourage anyone sitting on the toilet swiping and wondering when they’re gonna go on a date to check out photofeeler. If you’re gonna spend a bunch of time on tinder it’s probably best to make the best of that time, right?

Why Women Cheat According To A Cheater

October 27, 2023

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The first time we slept together he told me “I’ve wanted this for so long”, and “You’re so amazing” and then held me all night. Even now he praises me the entire time we’re together and takes any opportunity he can get for us to spend the night next to each other.

The last time you and I had sex, you said “thanks”, wiped yourself off, and went about your day. When I sleep close to you, you complain about my hair tickling or irritating you and you move away.

He kisses me. Deep, passionately, before, during, and after. My lips, my neck, my collarbone and more.

You give me a quick peck to say hello and goodbye. Never closing your eyes, never lingering for half a second.

How to Accept Your Partner’s Flaws

October 20, 2023

No one is perfect – not you, not me, and certainly not your partner. We all have our quirks, flaws, and imperfections. When you’re in a relationship, your partner’s less desirable traits can become glaringly obvious over time. While it may be tempting to try to change them or become critical, a better approach is to practice acceptance. Here are some tips:

Think Twice Before Falling for the Person They Could Be

October 9, 2023

We’ve all been there before – you meet someone who seems to have it all on paper. They’re charming, attractive, have similar interests as you, and seem to ‘get’ you in a way no one else does. As you get to know them more, you also start to see glimpses of their potential. If they just applied themselves a little bit more, stopped certain bad habits, or made some life changes, they could truly thrive and be an amazing partner.

The Myth and Magic of “Just Be Yourself” in Dating

October 6, 2023

In the vast world of dating advice, one tip seems to stand the test of time: “Just be yourself.” At first glance, it might seem overly simplistic, even cliché. But delve a little deeper, and its profound wisdom becomes evident.

Contrary to popular belief, this advice isn’t about winning over every potential partner. Instead, it’s about authenticity, happiness, and genuine connection. Let’s unpack this.