I’m short, I have been specifically told that I was too short to date multiple times. I’m fairly average in looks but I am short. The vast majority of girls won’t date a short guy unfortunately, all I’ve heard from girls is “tall dark and handsome” I’ve never met a girl who preferred to date short guys and only met a couple who didn’t mind. Being short is one of the most unattractive traits a guy can have and people will always remind you of that with jokes, insults, mocking and condescending comments. Dating as a short guy is almost impossible, I just give up.
Reading your message, I hear a ton of frustration, and honestly, it’s completely understandable. Being told you’re not enough because of your height is a painful experience, and the constant reminders from society don’t make it any easier. But hold on, because I want to challenge that negative narrative and offer some hope.
Yes, some people will have preferences. Some women might be drawn to taller guys, and that’s okay. It’s their prerogative, and trying to force yourself into someone’s mold who doesn’t appreciate you for who you are is a recipe for disaster.
But here’s the good news: there are plenty of women out there who don’t care about your height. They’re looking for someone with a great personality, a kind heart, and a sense of humor (and let’s be honest, short guys often have the best jokes!).
So, how do you attract these amazing women?
1. Embrace your awesomeness.
Seriously, this is the most important step. Own your height, rock your unique style, and let your personality shine. Confidence is sexy, no matter your size. When you exude self-assuredness, people are drawn to you. They see your inner strength and charisma, and that’s what truly matters.
2. Focus on what you can control.
You can’t change your height, but you can control your fitness, your style, your hobbies, and your attitude. Hit the gym, develop your passions, learn new skills, and be the best version of yourself. These are the things that will make you interesting and attractive, not your height.
3. Put yourself out there.
Don’t let fear hold you back. Join clubs, go to events, strike up conversations with people you meet. The more you put yourself out there, the more chances you have to meet someone special. And remember, rejection is a part of dating for everyone, tall or short. Don’t take it personally, just keep putting yourself out there and you’ll eventually find your match.
4. Don’t be afraid to make the first move.
Women appreciate confident guys who take initiative. So, if you see someone you’re interested in, go ahead and ask them out. The worst they can say is no, and who knows, you might just surprise yourself.
5. Remember, height is just one piece of the puzzle.
There are so many other qualities that make a great partner. Be kind, be compassionate, be a good listener, be supportive. These are the things that will make you a great boyfriend, husband, or partner, regardless of your height.
I know dating can be tough, especially when you’re short. But don’t let that discourage you. There are countless happy couples out there where the guy is shorter than the girl. And guess what? They wouldn’t have it any other way.
Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity, you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.