Hey,
I’m kind of stuck and hoping you can shed some light on things for me. See, I’ve been with my girlfriend for the same amount of time I’ve been divorced—about seven years. She’s amazing, truly. We’ve grown together, laughed, and supported each other through thick and thin. And here’s the thing: she’s ready for marriage, and part of me is too. But, there’s this other part, this nagging voice in the back of my head, that’s holding me back.
Relationships
A Guide to the Five Love Languages
Pop quiz, lovebirds: What makes your partner feel most adored? Is it a heart-melting compliment, a thoughtful gift, or maybe just a long, tight hug at the end of a tough day? According to relationship guru Dr. Gary Chapman, how we express and experience love can be broken down into five distinct “love languages”—and getting fluent in your partner’s preferred language is the secret sauce to keeping your bond strong and satisfying.
Relationship Matters: “My girlfriend lost her job and isn’t looking for a new one.”
My girlfriend lost her job and isn’t looking for a new one. Unfortunately I can’t support us both just on my income alone. I don’t know what to do.
We’ve been together for 3 years so she is aware of my financial situation and we are very open and honest with each other about our finances.
My girlfriend was fired from her job in November for being habitually late for work. When she first lost her job I figured no big deal, I have some savings and can afford to just be a one-income household for a little bit, but as time has gone on she has indicated that she is not interested in working again and is not looking for work. She doesn’t look for work and spends most of her time either sleeping, watching TV, or playing video games. When I ask her about finding a job or what she wants to do for her next job, she just laughs and shrugs it off, saying she will “figure it out.” She has hinted at wanting to remain unemployed and just live off my earnings.
Relationship Matters: ‘How Do You Get Over a Really Attractive GF Who Cheated?’
How do you get over a really attractive gf who cheated?
I was with my ex for 7 years she’s 36 and I miss her all the time, I look at other women and they all seem like downgrades in comparison to my ex. She was perfect, great ass, great boobs slim waist, nice face. Everything about her physically was great, the internal not so much since she cheated on me and was manipulative and abusive at times.
But part of me still wants her and I am extremely jealous of the guy she cheated on me with as he is now with her in a relationship.
Whilst I can’t find anyone or am attracted to anyone. It’s been 8 months and I just feel stuck fantasising about her and what she’s doing and how I am never going to be with a woman as hot as her ever again in my life.
You’re caught up in this illusion that physical attractiveness is the be-all and end-all of a relationship. Wake up!
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The Perils of Trying to ‘Fix’ Your Partner
The urge to “fix” our partners is deeply ingrained in us. We see a flaw, a weakness, an irritating habit, and our natural instinct is to step in and make things better. But what if, in trying to fix our spouses, we’re actually damaging the very relationship we’re trying to save?
Here’s the truth: you can’t fix your spouse. They are an individual with their own unique set of experiences, values, and desires. Trying to mold them into your ideal version is not only disrespectful but ultimately futile. It breeds resentment, fuels power struggles, and erodes the foundation of trust and acceptance that healthy relationships need.
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Why the Silent Treatment is Emotional Abuse
My husband (40) and I (33) have been married for almost a year and together almost 6 years. He has always had a very short fuse and when we fight he never accepts any blame or error and I always (90% of the time) have to apologize to live our normal lives again because I am a very anxious person.
His work has always been very demanding of his time, but lately he has been working overtime and weekends and I got a little annoyed.
Last Friday he came home late and I was already in bed waiting for him. He got very cuddly and I thought he just missed me, but no, he just wanted to get intimate, I didn’t, I was tired and upset he’s been working so much but nevertheless I agreed.
Naturally, I couldn’t get my mojo on and stopped in the middle of the act and he saw I was mad. He immediately said a lot of nasty things to me and we went to sleep.
I thought about talking the next day, but the next day he just got up and went to work right away and he didn’t even acknowledge me.
This has been going on for 3 days now and It is killing me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to even think about separation or divorce. I cry 2-3 times a day, I am not eating.
Imagine this: you and your partner have an argument. Emotions run high, words are exchanged, and tempers flare. But instead of open communication and resolution, your partner retreats into a chilling silence. They refuse to acknowledge you, answer your calls, or even make eye contact. Days, even weeks, might pass in this icy silence, leaving you feeling confused, hurt, and utterly alone.
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What is an Emotional Affair?
Love isn’t always as simple as black and white. Sometimes, the lines between friendship and romance blur, creating a complex emotional cocktail known as an “emotional affair.” While there’s no physical intimacy, the connection can be just as damaging to a primary relationship as its physical counterpart.
Why It’s Not Your Job to Solve Your Partner’s Problems
In the journey of love and partnership, the intertwining of lives often brings about a shared landscape of joys, challenges, and growth. However, in the midst of navigating this shared journey, it’s crucial to recognize the delicate balance between supporting your partner and shouldering their burdens.
Understanding that it’s not your job to solve your partner’s problems is not an act of indifference but a profound recognition of their capability and your mutual respect. This understanding fosters independence, personal growth, and ultimately, a more resilient and balanced relationship.
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The Perils of Keeping Score in Relationships
Relationships are not tennis matches. There are no winners and losers, no points to tally, no grand prize at the end. Yet, for many couples, the insidious act of keeping score creeps in, poisoning the well of love and connection.
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Why Financial Harmony is Key in Relationships
Aligning your financial values with your partner’s is the foundation upon which a secure and fulfilling future is built.
Think of it like this: your finances are the tectonic plates of your relationship. When they’re in sync, the ground feels steady, and you can build a future together with confidence. But when those plates start to shift, tremors of tension and resentment can erupt, leaving cracks in the very core of your partnership.
So, why exactly is financial harmony so important in love? Let’s delve deeper than a diamond ring and explore the gems of financial compatibility:
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