This girl is my (f23) best friend since we were kids. I’ve spent 10+ years being her friend but I can tell you she’s not a nice person. She has never been true to anyone in her life.
She cheated on her wonderful boyfriend with her toxic ex while they were living together and were committed to each other. She told me blushing and asked me to keep it a secret. It’s been 2 years since I’ve known and it eats me to hide it from that genuinely nice man.
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Life Advice
Challenging Yourself is the Only Way Forward
Look, I’m not going to sugarcoat this. If you want to make any real progress in your life, in your career, in your relationships – you’re going to have to do some seriously uncomfortable shit. There’s no way around it.
For too long, you’ve probably been tiptoeing through life, desperately trying to avoid anything that makes you remotely uncomfortable. You stay in your cozy little bubble, never venturing outside of it, never truly challenging yourself. And where has that gotten you? Nowhere fast, I’d bet.
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Why Falling on Your Face is the Key to Success
Failure is not something to be afraid of. It’s not something to avoid at all costs. In fact, failure is the single most important key to success.
You heard me right. Failing, falling flat on your face, screwing up royally… this is the stuff that separates the winners from the losers in life.
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What Are Non-Apologies?
Non-apologies are statements that might seem like apologies on the surface but don’t actually express genuine remorse or acknowledge wrongdoing. They often shift the responsibility away from the speaker and onto the recipient of the apology, or they dilute the impact of the apology through various means. Here are some common examples:
“I Don’t Have Enough Time”
Takes a deep breath Alright, let’s talk about this pathetic little excuse that so many people use to justify their lack of success and achievement in life:
“I don’t have enough time.”
Oh really? You don’t have enough time?
If Not Money, Possessions, or Status… Then What?
We live in a society that constantly bombards us with messages about what we should want in life. Advertisers tell us that happiness comes from driving the latest car model, wearing designer clothing, or indulging in luxury vacations.
The media glorifies the rich and famous, making us believe that status and wealth are the ultimate measures of a life well lived.
But what if, at the end of the day, none of those things truly bring about the deep fulfillment and contentment we all crave? What if we reach all of those socially prescribed goals, only to find that we still feel strangely empty inside?
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How to Let Go of Embarrassing Memories
We’ve all experienced embarrassing moments that seem to linger in our minds far longer than we’d like:
- That time you tripped in front of a crowd and turned beet red.
- The awkward comment you blurted out in a meeting.
- A wardrobe malfunction at the worst possible time.
- Saying the wrong thing to your crush.
These memories can pop up unexpectedly, flooding us with the same awful, cringeworthy feelings we felt in the moment. Our first instinct is often to run from the discomfort, to push the memory away, to distract ourselves so we don’t have to relive the embarrassment.
How Embracing Embarrassment Can Propel Personal Growth
Let’s be real: embarrassment sucks. It’s that gut-wrenching, face-reddening, I-want-to-disappear feeling that we’ve all experienced at one point or another. But here’s the thing – embarrassment is also one of the most powerful tools for personal growth and development.
Think about it. When was the last time you tried something new and felt totally comfortable doing it? Chances are, never. That’s because growth and comfort rarely go hand in hand. In fact, if you’re not feeling a little bit embarrassed or awkward when you’re pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, you’re probably not growing at all.
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The Art of Truly Hearing Others: Active Listening
In our fast-paced, constantly connected world, it’s easy to fall into the trap of hearing without really listening. We’re often so focused on formulating our own thoughts and responses that we fail to fully absorb and understand what others are saying.
But the ability to listen deeply and attentively is a crucial skill, one that can transform our relationships, both personal and professional. Enter the practice of active listening.
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How To Spot A Gold Digger
1. Understand what a gold digger is, and is not.
There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. A long-term partnership means depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree.
The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially.
A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you’re not well off.