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There are a lot of misconceptions about mindfulness out there. I know that I believed a few of them when I first started meditating in the fall of 2017. As I’ve explored my meditation practice more deeply over the last couple of years, I’ve come to realize that the public perception of meditation is often inaccurate.
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For the majority of my life I made one really big mistake: I under-valued the precious nature of the time I’ve been given to live here on earth, and over-valued the short term gratification that comes from digital pleasure.
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Life is hard. I don’t think anyone’s going to argue against that. There will always be challenges.
You have two options:
You choose you challenges. You push yourself. You go after what you want. You make it happen. It will be hard work, but you get to chose where you go and become the active driver of your life.
You do nothing and wait until life throws something at you. Then you’re on defense. You’re unprepared and just doing your best to stay afloat. You’re unprepared and unpracticed because you’ve spent all of your time dicking around.
The choice is yours.
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We all want to be happy.
We all want to experience joy, love, and abundance on a daily basis.
We all want to live the best life possible.
But very few of us actually know how to achieve the goal of lifelong happiness.
We are always thinking once we get this done or accomplish that goal… then we’ll be happy.
This was me:
Once I graduate high school then get into college then I’ll be happy…
Once I graduate college then get a job I’ll be happy…
Once I get this promotion then I’ll be happy…
Once I make enough to retire then I’ll be happy…
Once I get a date then I’ll be happy…
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Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
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I’ve got a simple question for you: Who are you?
Look, this is not a job interview or any type of interview.
I’m not looking for a politically correct answer. “I’m a person who’s serious about his career. I like to spend time with my family and friends.” That’s true for every single person who is determined enough to have a job.
No, I’m talking about who you truly are — deep down.
Because let’s face it, you and I both know that we all have two personalities, who live two different lives. There’s the life we want to live, and then there’s the life we’re actually living.
We’ve seen it time and time again. That one co-worker who is obese but is only attracted to people of a healthy weight, that one cousin who prefers to date highly successful people but have no ambition whatsoever, and that one friend who you love to death but they carry themselves like they’re in a post-apocalyptic era and for some reason they only want to date Instagram models.
Porn Addiction is Being Severely Underestimated. How do I know this?
Because most people believe that in order to get rid of this addiction, all they have to do is keep trying over and over again, until eventually things will just ‘click’ and their brains will finally become rebooted.
Very few are treating this as a true addiction. They just see it as a habit they want to break.
This is evidenced by the stubbornness of many, relying purely on willpower for months, only to constantly reset their counters and beat themselves up for not making any progress.
Truth be told, online dating used to be brutal for me. Dating involves some measure of rejection. It’s not for the thin-skinned. I used to wring my hands writing carefully curated emails to all the hot chicks on a site. It was a part-time job going through all the profiles of girls living in Chicago.
I can’t predict when you’ll find love, but I’m confident that you won’t find the girl of your dreams while staying home and playing with yourself. So get back online and keep looking.
