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How do I know if I’m good in bed? It’s a question we all ask ourselves from time to time but hardly ever ask other people, probably partly because we are afraid of what they will say.
In general, we all think we are good in bed. After all, there is no evidence to the contrary is there? Nobody runs away halfway through, or deletes us on Facebook the day after. No, all the information points to a godlike stature in the sack and who are we to argue?
We learn early on in life (in childhood and, if not, definitely when we enter the workplace after education) that a lot of our success boils down to how likeable we are.
The ‘likeability’ factor is often underestimated, with the majority of our attention given to the acquisition of new abilities and skills. Whilst there are important considerations, being likeable trumps them all because it works on a much deeper level. After all, life and business are social enterprises – in order to achieve our goals, we are going to need the help of others, and the help of others depends on them liking us.
“I’m a failure because I don’t have a good job. Because I haven’t found a special someone yet. Because my body isn’t the right shape. Because I’m poor. Who I am is not good enough.”
Why do so many people relate to those words? Why is the default mental narrative of so many people “I’m a failure and I have no hope of getting better”?
"A well-built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it; no money can buy it. You cannot borrow it, you cannot inherit it, you cannot steal it. You cannot hold onto it without constant work. It shows discipline, it shows self-respect, it shows patience, work ethic, and passion. That is why I do what I do."
– Arnold Schwarzenegger
You act one way in person, but let your inner child run loose online. Bully people, complain endlessly, pick fights with strangers, leave nasty comments.
What’s the harm? It’s not you. “On the internet, no one knows you’re a dog.”
Oh wait, it IS you. You ARE the person you act like online.
When you complain online, your real-life experience sours.
When you obsess over doom-and-gloom news stories, your worldview darkens considerably.
And when you’re mean and juvenile and nasty to perfect strangers, you’ll find your thoughts becoming sharper about the real-life people that you love.
Before you meet the one, you’re going to meet a lot of other ones. Possibly one or two who make you think that the one doesn’t exist, or that you had the o\ne, and the one was actually some sort of Anakin Skywalker Darth Vader situation meant to “bring balance” to your life (i.e.: ruin it).
I made a general list of red flags in women. Every situation is different. Not every red flag necessarily means the relationship is doomed, sometimes you need to just work around it. This isn’t an all inclusive list, and can usually work for both genders, but I was requested to make one specifically for women.
Ask yourself this every morning, every now and then. We know you love yourself and that is very healthy. We all know you believe in the “nobody’s perfect” speech so I cannot be it all. But the question to you today is, if you met someone exactly like you;
(photo: @carlosheviariera)
Make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, Ron, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.
Photo by Ariel Castillo
Staying focused is haaarrrddd. Our modern world is intentionally crafted to be filled with distractions. There are lots of people making lots of money off of you picking up your phone 307 times a day. To stay focused, we have to fight against not only ourselves and our wandering minds, but also thousands of hours of research done for the sole purpose of figuring out how best to make people look away from what they’re doing and at something that someone is trying to sell us. With a little practice, it is possible to stay focused, and I’ve got some tips to help you out.
