I broke my wife and I don’t think it is fixable
This happened 6 months ago. And I only chose to talk now because I don’t see improvement in sight and I am hopeless.
We were at a party. My friend is single and we started talking about love and relationships. My wife and I have been happily married for 7 years. We have 3 beautiful children. She is the love of my life. When I was talking to my friend I felt like we were on different levels of thinking. His complaints are mostly superficial about how the people he dated looked. I was a bit drunk at that point and said something like “you don’t fall in love with looks, look at me and my wife I love her more than anything compared to my ex who was just looks” everyone went silent and my damage control was worse so I ended up shutting the hell up.
I couldn’t get my point across but even I thought that maybe these thoughts have been in my head but only came out when I was drunk. My wife was shocked. First week she was so angry and wanted to understand what I meant and nothing I said was good enough. I was drunk. I love her. I think she’s the most beautiful woman. She thought being drunk made me say my true feelings.
Then one morning she just said, “you know, I have never felt as ugly as I have felt this past week. I have always thought I am beautiful”. She didn’t cry this time but she hasn’t been happy since. I started crying and apologizing but she was like emotionless. It was the last time she looked at me too. She is taciturn and distant but only with me. She has lost 20lbs and she works out 6-7 days a week. She never has free time with me. If she’s not with the children or her family and friends she’s immersed in some book or has her headphones on.
She’s always fully clothed now even in bed. She locks the bathroom door when she takes a shower She is more active on social media too. She shares many pictures of her. And she thanks everyone who gives her a compliment. Before, it was just pictures with our children and pets but now it’s her. Working out in sports bras and tights. I broke her and I don’t know how to fix it
Approaching Life with a Perspective to Understand, Not Judge
We navigate a world teeming with diverse experiences and viewpoints. This beautiful tapestry of humanity can also spark judgmental tendencies within us.
But what if, instead of quick judgments, we aimed for a deeper understanding? Cultivating a perspective that fosters understanding rather than judgment can enrich our lives and foster positive connections.
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You Have to Take 100% Responsibility For Everything That You Experience in Your Life
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If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings—everything! This is not easy.
Linkage
16 Accidental Renaissance Photos That Are Better Than Art History – Ned Hardy
Get Your Son Out of His Bedroom – The Art of Manliness
Many cleaning professionals vouch that this is the best hardfloor cleaner you can buy – Amazon
Charted: U.S. Median House Prices vs. Income – Visual Capitalist
Wendy’s will not implement surge pricing as CEO causes online stir – Yahoo
Former WWE star Virgil dead at 61 – Cageside Seats
The “Disney adult” industrial complex – The New Statesman
Flop rock: inside the underground floppy disk music scene – The Verge
Gen Z’s big gamble: They’re living with their parents to save money. But it’s going to cost them, big time – Business Insider
The 38 Best Things to Eat at Disneyland – Eater
Reading Between The Lines: Man of La Mancha – Ned Hardy
I don’t know how I ever cooked without a salt box before…. It so effortless, compared to having to grab a box of kosher salt from the cabinet – Amazon
SBF asks for 5-year prison sentence, calls 100-year recommendation “grotesque” – ARS Technica
X-Men: The Animated Series – The 10 Best Episodes – Den of Geek
Top 10 Best Drumming Performances of All Time – Listverse
Older Americans are working longer. Some want to; others have to – VOX
A tech billionaire is quietly buying up land in Hawaii. No one knows why – NPR
Dude knocks out 2 people while being jumped by 10 people – Reddit
The Dumping Grounds
Why is Jimi Hendrix Considered The Greatest Guitar Player of All Time?
The debate over the greatest guitarist of all time is a contentious one, with opinions varying across genres and generations. Yet, when it comes to naming the pinnacle of guitar mastery, one name frequently emerges as the consensus: Jimi Hendrix.
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What the Movie Robocop Was Really Trying to Say
In 1987, audiences were introduced to a futuristic Detroit, a city plagued by crime and corporate greed, through the lens of Paul Verhoeven’s “RoboCop.”
At first glance, the film might seem like a straightforward action-packed sci-fi thriller, but beneath its metallic exterior lies a biting satire that delves deep into the socio-political issues of the era.
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Forgiveness Is the Gift You Give Yourself
Forgiveness is often mistakenly seen as a gift we bestow upon the offender, a way to absolve them of their wrongdoing.
However, the true essence of forgiveness lies within us. It’s a powerful tool that, when used effectively, liberates us from the emotional chains of anger, resentment, and bitterness.
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Poll of the Day
How Many Red Flags Can You Spot?
I am a F (39) who became pregnant in my last relationship (birth control failure). Roe vs Wade was overturned about a week before I found out, though I really don’t know what I would have chosen.
Irregardless, that relationship has ended, and I am ready to enter the dating scene again. I’m not getting any younger, after all! And admittedly it would be nice to not go through it alone.
I just don’t know if there’s any point in putting myself out there while I’m still pregnant… should I wait until after the baby is born and recovery is finished? Or would you date a woman who was already pregnant when you met? Any advice or feedback is much appreciated!
For info, I just started my last trimester (with a boy) if it’s relevant, and I have 3 older children from a previous marriage F(15), F(13), and F(5). So I would obviously only be dating someone who was ok with children in the first place.