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The first symptom of the process of our killing our dreams is the lack of time. The busiest people I have known in my life always have time enough to do everything. Those who do nothing are always tired and pay no attention to the little amount of work they are required to do. They complain constantly that the day is too short. The truth is, they are afraid to fight the Good Fight.
I have been through this. I found out my wife had a threesome with a friend and his wife, then caught her with another guy. The first time I found out, I felt like you feel. Like someone has torn your soul out of your chest, like the most precious thing you had in your life was stolen from you. You feel like you will never get it back, like you’re made of glass and someone demolished you. I know how you feel.
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Your alarm goes off at 6:30 am.
Stumbling out of bed, you brew a strong cup of coffee to get through the day. Sitting in your car, you pause before starting the engine. “I can’t keep doing this”, you think to yourself.
Driving to work, you arrive at your soul-sucking job with only minutes to spare. As you walk through the office doors an all too familiar feeling creeps in.
You hate it here. You hate the menial tasks that fill your waking hours. You hate the manager who seems to revel in breathing down your neck.
Sinking into your chair, you stare numbly at your computer, a single thought commandeering your conscious mind.
“I hate myself and I hate my life”
The one who’s friends with her ex or exits dating this type of girl is like dating a time bomb.
You see most of the time girls who still keep in touch with their exes, still have some feelings for them, especially if the breakup is recent.
This means when you have one big argument with her or you make her mad or something, she’ll be just one text away from a guy who she liked and liked her. And she used to date a guy with who she had sex and has shared really good memories with.
I keep seeing encountering people who are struggling with their budget but have some ridiculous car payment. Let’s have a little discussion for people who are looking to buy a car. Here’s some advice I’ll give. Your mileage may vary (oh yes I went there). This advice is in USD but works anywhere.
Don’t get stuck holding the bag on a car that depreciates faster than you pay it off. I’ve done the math at a bunch of different interest rates, and the bottom line is that 48 months is the magic number for loan terms. At 4 years or below, you’re typically safe. Maybe you can push the boundary at super low interest rates, but there are other reasons not to finance for too long, including risk of financing a used vehicle for longer than expected reliable service life.
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Most people are distracted right now.
They’re distracted while they’re at work. They’re distracted when they’re with family and friends.
They’re distracted at the gym, on their commute, and even in the shower.
The mediocre majority will continue going through life this way, never experiencing the fullness of a life filled with deep focus and purpose.
“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back.” — Paulo Coelho
The bulletproof way to miss out on a career that means the world to you is to wait for the perfect moment. Your brain will always convince you into believing that you are never ready.
Every single thing you do, all the hard work, the sweat, the blood, the tears, all of the energy and effort you put into your craft and your goals behind closed doors, matter.
Every single second matters.
Every single decision matters.
Everything matters.
One day, the sum of all your decisions in life will determine why you stand where you stand, how you got to where you are.
Fear of rejection is a powerful motivator—or more accurately, anti-motivator. The sting of rejection is sharp, probably because most of us consider rejection humiliating. If fear of rejection holds too powerful an influence over your choices, Rejection Therapy may be up your alley.
The free game has one rule: You must be rejected by another person at least once, every single day.
It’s a simple but clever idea designed to help you build confidence and overcome your fear of rejection:
You can think of it as game, but this game involves your life and the treasures are real.
The five objectives of Rejection Therapy are:
1. To be more aware of how irrational social fears control and restrict our lives
2. Smash the tyranny of fear and reap the treasures (treasures include wealth, relationships and self-confidence)
3. Learn from, and even enjoy rejection
4. To not be attached to outcomes, especially when it involves the free agency of other people
5. Permit yourself to fail
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I believe that the definition of definition is reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself.
Completely.
When I was young I had no sense of myself. All I was, was a product of all the fear and humiliation I suffered. Fear of my parents. The humiliation of teachers calling me “garbage can” and telling me I’d be mowing lawns for a living. And the very real terror of my fellow students. I was threatened and beaten up for the color of my skin and my size. I was skinny and clumsy, and when others would tease me I didn’t run home crying, wondering why.
I knew all too well. I was there to be antagonized. In sports I was laughed at. A spaz. I was pretty good at boxing but only because the rage that filled my every waking moment made me wild and unpredictable. I fought with some strange fury. The other boys thought I was crazy.
