Life Advice

Don t Make Assumptions

April 28, 2023

dont make assumptions

We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking — we take it personally — then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.

How To Set Healthy Boundaries In A Relationship?

April 27, 2023

Are you a doormat? Do you lead your own, independent life? Are you in charge? Or, on the other hand, does your wife or girlfriend tell you exactly what to do?

If you’re giving her the reins to your existence, I’ve got news for you. You need to learn how to set healthy boundaries in a relationship.

There Are No More Zero Days

April 26, 2023

(photo: @xangriffin)

What’s a zero day? A zero day is when you don’t do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I’m not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that’s not the point. The point I’m trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didnt’ do anything all fucking day and it’s 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me? When you’re in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behavior is keeping the vortex goin, that’s what you’re used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn’t happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That’s rule number one. Do not forget.

19 Signs That You’re In An Abusive Relationship

April 24, 2023

abusive relationship signs

1. Make it difficult for you to meet/connect/spend time with family or friends and will repeatedly make critical comments (to isolate you)

2. They don’t respect your boundaries. And they subtly push them until you find yourself tolerating things you would usually run for the hills for

If You Have To Look For Reasons To Accept Yourself, You’ll Never Find Them

April 21, 2023

Photo by Sam Moqadam

How many times have you looked in the mirror and had one of these thoughts?

“I’ll stop hating myself when I reach weight X.”
“When have job title X I’ll be happy”
“When I get a girlfriend/boyfriend I’ll be happy”
“When I fix personality flaw X I’ll be good enough”

That’s called conditional self-love. It’s attaching your self worth to some tiny fraction of who you are. Not only is it toxic, it makes the journey towards your goals miserable.

7 Ways That You’re Wasting Time Without Realizing It

April 20, 2023

wasting your time

Photo by Aron Visuals

If you’re anything like me, you’re trying to make the most of your time. You realize that it’s your most limited and precious resource, and you can’t get it back once it’s gone. You’re also tired of people telling you that social media is a time-waster because you already know that. That’s not news to anyone.

Six Healthy Habits Every Man Should Have

April 19, 2023

Good habits are the building blocks of a healthy, happy and successful life. Luckily for us, we have more control over our health than many of us would think – and this all comes down to the habits that we choose to adopt.

Habits can be healthy or problematic. They can range from hitting the gym to vegging on the couch; from learning a new language to endless procrastination; from telling ourselves that we’re worthy to beating ourselves up every time we make a mistake.

Success Is An Eternal Struggle

April 18, 2023

Your goal shouldn’t be the end result, but rather the struggle, pain, and excruciating process that leads to it. The goal itself won’t make you better, it’s the grind, the process, and the struggle that will sharpen you, strengthen you, and make you tougher.

The metaphor of success being a mountain with an end point is flawed. There is no end. Believing in an end will take you away from what’s making you better – the grind, the process, and the struggle of an ambitious life.