“Settling” isn’t what we’ve made it out to be.
True settling is pretending that you’re ok with something that is completely wrong for you and you’ve always known is wrong for you.
Anything beyond that isn’t settling, it is simply becoming realistic.
Think about your life currently, did it go exactly as you planned and you reached every dream and marked off everything on your bucket list?
Did you grow up in the ideal family?
If you had kids, could you guarantee that they turned out exactly as you hoped they would?
So why do we place this type of standard on significant others?
A million different factors go into one single individual. It is IMPOSSIBLE for a person to have 80-90% of your list checked off. You cant formulate a human being.
So when you end up in a relationship with someone who you are intrinsically compatible with who is at least moderately attractive and committed to your relationship, it is a win so please recognize it as such. you dont have to be with that person, but considering it “settling” because there might be better out there is the epitome of fool’s gold. Don’t fall for that trap.
– kellydayscruff
Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity, you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.