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You aren’t in love. You aren’t infatuated. Your ego is damaged.
When people use us, then toss us to the side, that desire to win them over isn’t because we really want to be with them. It isn’t even really a desire for them. It’s a desire to prove our worth. When someone rejects you after using you, your ego and sense of pride is damaged, because they were able to play your emotions for them to their advantage, and get what they wanted, or what they think they wanted.
Once they’re done, and begin ignoring you, or ghosting you, or outright rejecting you, you feel (understandably) used, and in a sick sense, unworthy of that person. Your unworthiness isn’t factual, or even logical really, but since they turned you down, you can’t help but wonder why you weren’t good enough to win them over. Why they were so easily able to toss you to the side
So you start wanting to prove yourself to that person. Not to win them back into your life, but for the sole purpose of proving to yourself that you’re worth the love that you were denied.
So how do you get over that guy or girl that’s rejected you, or tossed you to the side, or ghosted you?
Realize that you don’t actually want them, you just want what was denied you. Acceptance. Love. Appreciation. And realize that you can find those things in someone much better suited for you.
