I’m a 27 year old, 6’4″, college-educated, reasonably confident, fairly attractive (8/10 on an average day).
I’m not a 10/10 so I don’t have women throwing themselves at me, but I have a reasonable chance of catching virtually any woman I might try to pursue.
People are very trusting of you. I get asked for directions a lot on the street – far more than anyone I know. It’s almost silly sometimes, as if i’m famous.
People believe what you tell them, which is part of the reason I’ve been so successful in business. The flip side of that is you begin to believe that whatever you say is true.
Then someone who doesn’t care that you are handsome ends up thinking you are just some arrogant cock bag.
People laugh at your jokes more, even when they’re not that funny. The best people will try to make you laugh in return, though. I appreciate people like that very much.
Women hit on me all the time. For all their tough talk about how men are so weak, women are unbelievably arrogant around a hot guy.
Tying into that last one, I get a lot of inappropriate advances too. I guess because there are proportionally fewer ‘hot’ guys around, women feel like the sexual harassment rules don’t apply.
There’s a lot of unnecessary sexual tension when working with women. It’s a drag, if I am too nice to one coworker then assumptions are made, so I’m encouraged not to do favors or help people as a result. The best way to solve this is usually to claim that I’m already in a relationship.
You tend to get invited places. Parties/events/friends etc – people just want to have you around a lot. This becomes very difficult to handle – and is one of the main reasons I don’t go out too much. With too many invites you must choose between friends, and that sucks. Those who you choose like you, and those who you overlook assume you look down on them. You cannot win.
When you walk into a room, you can feel people looking at you, you feel completely under scrutiny.
Men have a 50/50 reaction to me – either they love me or hate me. It’s very easy to tell which guys are self confident and which are self conscious.
Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity, you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.