A friend called me a couple of days ago asking me if I knew that my girlfriend was using Tinder, despite being with me for the last 3 years, and living together and happily planning an engagement. I was distraught, knowing what Tinder is and what it is used for, I was heartbroken.
The friend goes on to tell me that her bio says she’s “Looking to make some new, exciting and fun friends and looking to hangout. Willing to travel a little if there’s enough excitement involved!”
Her pictures do not include me, despite 9/10 pictures ever taken of either of us for the last three years having the two of us together in them.
I brought this up to her, and she laughed it off, saying that 1: my best friend of 11 years is ‘nosy’ and that 2: she’s entitled to seek friends and be social, even if it is with complete strangers.
Basically she completely invalidated my points and made me feel guilty for being upset by this, playing it off like I am being possessive.
Since then I’ve avoided bringing it up and just tried to get over it. She hasn’t been out and about any more than usual so it doesn’t look like she has any ‘takers’ yet, but this is just not sitting right with me.
Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity, you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.